Call the Bank Back

Now to add to it…the Bank called Girl.  The mortgage was overdue 3 cycles with the 4th payment due the next day.  Funny,that was the same day Boy was leaving and Girl was meeting with Lawyer.  (Lawyer will now be the name for Girl’s Lawyer, Shrew will be the name for Boy’s lawyer when she finally appears in the story).

How does this all come about?  In the divorce decree, Girl left the house to Boy because that is where the children were living.  Girl tried over and over again to get him to get his own mortgage, but his credit and that of his little playmate cow didn’t mesh together to be able to get them anything. They had already over-leveraged themselves with cars – one each – and credit cards that were used to buy electronic toys, wine and beer.

The only reason Boy had the house was because of Girl’s job and credit..he needed to leave her on the mortgage and the deed because he would never have been able to get the mortgage himself.  In the past year, the mortgage had come up for renewal.  Boy had asked Girl to re-sign the mortgage because the bank would not give it to him alone.  Girl had to waste a Saturday tracking down the employees and the documents at the crazy bank he used because they couldn’t figure out how to get the process completed.

Call the Lawyer

So you are probably wondering why I have all this information.  Well, when I was working with lawyers on a different matter, notes were everything.  I would spend the regular eight hours of work working, and then spend another 2 to 3 making notes on every issues.  I got pretty good at it.  Something about this whole situation compelled me to write it down.  Fortunately it is also recorded in reams and reams of court documents….coming soon…be patient.

Well, Boy is going to be off and Girl calls her lawyer on Monday morning explaining what needs to take place. Of course an affidavit is required, that and a retainer….so every can understand this is not going to be cheap.  In fact, by the time all is said and done (and at the time of this writing it still is not) Girl could have sent both children to medical school and paid the mortgage on her house.  Anyway,   Girl books the appointment with Lawyer and made more notes. In the next two days, Boy left the country and Girl met with Lawyer.  Girl was still stunned.   Girl could still not believe that Boy would abandon his children.  Girl could not fathom what the children were actually thinking even though Boy fed them line after line about how this would be best for everyone.  Where in God’s green earth is it best for anyone to not live in the same home as a biological parent?  Yes, go ahead, lecture me on the unsafe situations of abuser and everything else, this is not the case for the homes of Boy or Girl.  But to actually have children raised by someone other than their biological parent when no other extenuating circumstances are present is absolutely ridiculous!

Money Issues, Of Course

When Girl asked how they would communicate about the kids, Boy said by email and that he would be getting an international cellphone so that he could call them.  He would not be giving Girl the number because she would not need it.  Girl could communicate with Lilith!  Lilith would be responsible for driving the kids to school and pick up from Girl’s mom’s.

Boy also explained that although his pay was not going to be the same as he was earning at the Golf Club, it was in US funds and also tax-free because it would be earned on international waters so he would come out way ahead. (HAHA)  Boy would not discuss his salary or provide evidence of it for Girl to be able to determine how much of Bubba’s orthodontic expenses he would need to cover.  As usual, it was up to Girl to pay for everything…even more so now that Boy would not be around.

For monetary concerns, as Girl was paying child support, Boy asked Girl to continue to put child support into a specific account that they had set up and was still held jointly for this purpose.  This amount of course, would cover the mortgage.

The Next Bomb

Boy explains to Girl that he had to look for work and that is why that, at times, the mortgage was not being paid, but that would change going forward.  Boy had landed a job with Holland America – that’s right!  A cruise ship line.  He would be a Sous Chef – not even the executive chef.  He would be travelling 4 months on with a 2 ½ month furlough and then he would go back for 4 months.  Girl is stunned.  Girl has no idea what to say, so instead she starts to write notes.  Boy stated that he would start working in two weeks but had to leave for Fort Lauderdale in 4 days and return sometime in August. Boy said he covered all this with the children and that they were fine with it.  They would miss him but he would send for them with the money he makes so that they could visit him on the ship (do you really think that’s going to happen??)

Girl asked about the residence of the children.  Boy stated that Lilith would take over parental duties in his absence.  Girl was terribly upset about that.  This woman had never had kids of her own, hardly cared for them during the time they were with the couple because the children spent more time at MammaMia’s than with her.  Girl was also very afraid of the complaints the children had made about her punishments for silly ‘infractions’ on rules that Lilith made up to be a hard-nosed stepmother who was practicing her own form of ‘tough love’.  Girl expressed her deep concern but Boy dismissed it.  Girl made it clear that she would be contacting a lawyer about getting the children removed from the stepmother’s ‘care’.

The First of Many Bumps in the Road

Christmas of course, was spent back at MammaMia’s with the Christmas traditions surrounding the family.  There are some things that don’t change.  Funny though, in the last few month, Girl had been receiving notices from the bank that the mortgage had not been paid on Boy’s house.  Girl had to remain on the mortgage and the deed of the house because Boy could not afford, not did he have the credit (with or without Lilith) to get his own mortgage.  Girl let Boy know that she had received this letter and Boy said it must be a mistake.  He would check into it and make sure everything was as it should be.